July 23, 2026
Here I am writing what might be the final message to this drama that is going on with my daughter Ashly and myself that has my granddaughter caught up in this as well with Grandparent Alienation and I hope we are not at an Impasse.
I lost connection with my daughter just over 15 years ago, supposedly over an (Alleged/Allegation) statement (This was mentioned a few times in previous letters & messages and even a TikTok video from Ashly) during a heated discussion that took place while I was still in recovery of a head trauma that had affected my memory & personality (Information was provided for this also. Even if I had said anything remotely what has been claimed, People say things that they don't mean when they are hurting too, its called a 'Empty Threat' as documented - Read 1 & 2) which has cause my daughter to do Estrangement & Grandparent Alienation. [TO ALL] Go back and read all the letters and messages and be sure to click on the links for the supporting information for more clarity.
Yes, I let my daughter down a few times or more and some of it was my fault, but most was not, it was just a matter of lifes unknown circumstance that pop up on everyone at different times in peoples lives, so I am fighting for reconciliation & restoration for all of us.
So my hopes are that everyone who has seen and read the information that I have provided knows how hard I have tried to reunite with my daughter by seeing all the letters I have wrote, all the documentation that has been provided with a variety of resources for support to prove what has been said or for more clarity & understanding. Showing proof that I actually cared enough to seek her out in person in Toowoomba, Australia in November 2025, and everything that had to be done to accomplish this endeavor. And even creating this website myself to reach out and plead for help from the Psychology professionals to the public, individual people who may be going through something similar or knows someone who is or has been through this and to provide help in any means possible, for example, if you know my daughter or see her then speak to her and see if you can reach her where I am not able too. I would appreciate any help given in helping me resolve my differences with my daughter and a chance to know my granddaughter. At this point the only thing I would like or to be able to have are normal phone calls and some video messagings sessions with both of them.
In my letters I have admitted some wrongs that where my fault and I have taken accountability for those things. Then there are situations that have distorted & skewed viewpoints from both of us. Information was provided trying to enlighten Ashly about why things happened, but I am not sure if she has read any of the information and or the information just does not mean anything to her. Does she even care about what I was going through that cause the chain of events that devastated out family or just her own in a selfish self-centered way.
This is where I believe therapy for both of us would be beneficial,* but Ashly will not consent to this, but Why?
I have nothing to hide myself, I provided information on my previous therapy sessions with behavorial health documentation, information on my traits, chararacteristics, and more to help you understand me and who I am. I was telling you, Ashly about my memories of my life growing up year by year from age 5 to age 12 which was as far as I was able to get too when everthing stopped; I was being very transparent about myself! - I grew up GenX!
I have tried to show positive care in my words to her for her accomplishments and overcoming adveristy & obsticles, two divorces and currently being in a co-dependency relationship* based on information she has provided in our converstions (Calling her partner a - "Man Child!" twice and in a TikTok video expressing the relationship is Toxic!) and health issues with herself & her daughter with ADHD/. But she seemed to be looking for me to make mistakes in my wording or about certain topics to call me out on them as she has done and calling those situations as self-centerness1 & 2 on my part, however I rebuke that and mirror it back at her in the same context. Then some of her words and statements convey, Anger & Vulgar Language!
So, in addition to the claims of what I was supposedly threatened to do, Ashly is upset with her disciplining and may think all of her discipline was abuse when only a few times that it got intense or excessive and this was also Ashly's mom thoughts and told me this herself. So there are some following questions that I would like to know from Ashly.....
- If your disciplining was so bad and so many, why weren't there more Police & Child Protective Services involvements or cases other than just the one incident?
- Why would your mom defend & support me instead of prosecuting me?
- Can you explain the difference between correction or disciplining verses abuse?
- How do you or have you discipline(d) your own child and how so?
- How long do you discipline your child for?
- How long should I be disciplined for the situations about our lives?
- Do you understand mistakes, cause & effect (Life Issues - {You said in one of your TiKTok videos that you were going to go into the Air Force or military, however you didn't because "Life Got In The Way!, but that's okay".} and forgiveness?
- Do you realize your daughter is learning by example from you now? (Maybe one day you will find out!)
- Do you understand there was "Then and Now" and "Now is NOT Then" - things change?
- Just a statement here: If you go looking for faults & negativity you will find them as no one is perfect and if you poke the bear you will get a reaction and that could vary.
Even now to refer back on things Ashly has said, which some can be proved, some cannot, which is she appears to be self-centered1 & 2 with following comments in questioned*...
- She thinks I am trying to discourage her from her education & career course, but I wasn't, I was just trying to question another avenue to ease her life by saying "Could you not have a good career with the Two Masters Degrees you have already? - Her reply was "Hell No! the pay is Shit Pay!" - In that statement there was no concern about how much she wants and enjoys her career and the importance to help others, it was all about her and the financial reward.
- Another is with my persistance to have a relationship with my daughter and seeking and or trying to get help for her, her and me, for me and a relationship & to know my granddaughter, as well as trying to prevent any possible damages to others because of her professional career and services she provides that might be challenged by our history and her memories & mindset*. - She made the statement "He is trying to distroy my career, my life just to have a relationship with me!" instead of recognizing that her & I, we need help and that we should at least try! Also the prevention of additional possible tragedies*.
Therapy I believe would be the solution and most likely a long term process*, but Ashly has not agreed to this option even though she is a therapist herself and should know that silence & seperation is not the correct answer.
I have provided links to other therapist videos that speak about Estrangement & Grandparent Alienation that may be good for Ashly and others to review on these topics and more areas associated with also.
I have a Therapist Video that explains why this is a problem, which is, the issue is not about Fixing an Issue, the logic behind the problem, but It's About Control! - Ashly wants Control and I want to Fix our lives! - Control usually wins!
It has gotten to a point where I can't do anymore personally myself, so I have to look towards help from others, like her therapist, her peers, and professional departments that have psychology connections and influences. I have stated in all my correspondences no matter what format that it was in as to my concerns for my daughter, Ashly, that she may be dealing with Unresolved Childhood Trauma & UCT 2,* by her actions and statements in different mediums (Videos & Messages) which I have provided for proof. Because of her actions she is causing pain on me, she had been doing Estrangement with me, but an attempt was made to try to start a new relationship with each other when I came to Toowoomba, but something went wrong and I am not sure what happened and she will not express it, but decides to do the silent treatment1 & 2. Also by keeping my granddaughter away from me for all of her life to current date (my granddaughter will be 17 years old at the end of August), this which is known as Grandparent Alienation.
So, I am Stepping Up to do what others won't do or aware to do.
The Challenge between Logic/Fixing and Control begins!....
Because I have challenged her with outside sources for help and mentioned a consideration to seek legal councel for a court case for Grandparent Alienation, she has decide to push back with a Harrassment claim agains me.
She has contacted
the local law enforcement agency here where I live in Ohio (See Email), USA, to establish her desires not to be contacted anymore by me and that possibly seeking court action if violated which I won't in a one on one senerio, meaning legal considerations are still possible to see about being able to see & talk to my granddaughter via video chat services using an attorney and court proceedings.
However this maneuver has been upseting to me,but she does not know how the legal system actually works, you have to know what county the offense took place in and not where I reside. There are several counties that I move through everyday and the device used to create the offense needs to be know, for example, cell phone, laptop, or pc since they are the only means to be use to perpetrate an offensse which is by electronic digital means through emails and a variety of messaging platforms and there is more, but we will not have to explore this situation as I don't want to challenge the legal system, but just saying out of Annoyance.
Just a personal observation statement: Just because someone sends a Text Message, Email or even a phone call does not mean the person who recieves it has to acknowledge it or respond to any of them. However, in saying that, that is exactly what Ashly has done with most of the messages - Silent Treatment! (Go protect your peace instead of fighting for what should actual matter! - Who is giving up now, but I guess its your turn right?!)
Now because Ashly wants to throw a little weight around with legal tatics, then here is one in return as follows:
Defamation of Character also Defamation2 (or Slander) can be filed against her for a few claims she has made against me with no proof and posted it on TikTok social media platform
and messaging systems and I have the proof and it has been provided in this website and on a Google Drive, and provided to her as well. In addition to this type of claim there is the one where she states that her mom was going to hit her, but she pushed her back statement. Does she have proof of this or is it just a rebellious statement? (It is still a claim that could be look at as Defamation/Slander also she admits to an assult by pushing back her mom- see TikTok 2)
Also I believe these are some of the Psychological Terms that Ashly has perpetrated against me* and Iwould consider a neutral Psychologist to evalute and see if I have any possible legitimate
claims to these things.
What I believe should be done on behalf of both of us is Arbitration and or Mediation*which the latter is going to be recommended by the court to be done first for Grandparent Alienation based on what I have read and understand is the law according to the Family Law Act of 1975. again I have sought Legal Representation, however, at this time I am going to put legal proceedings on hold per attorneys recommendations in hopes that Ashly and myself can still work something out to consider my granddaughters feelings in this matter. I'm not sure what road I will take at this point, court or wait till my granddaughter turns eighteen next year and contact her through a private investigator or a process server which at that time he will give her a packet of information for her to review & consider. I'm also waiting to see if the Psychology Board can assist in this situation with my daughter & granddaughter.
Final Thoughts
Observation: With all of this informaton, actions & reactions by both Ashly & Me there is obvious at least two things to take away from all of this and at least one consideration*:
- Ashly communicates & demonstates her Fear, Anger, Concerns and more, so in her mind they are real and this should be noted as to the reasons on my concerns and claims of Unresoled Childhood Trauma1 & 2 and for seeking help for her, her & me, the whole family in general and the possible need to protect others and any instution(s) that has a connection*.
- That I Genuinely Care & Love my Daughter to have put such great effort in all the letters, information, documentation and more that I have provided including this website to plead for help by other and not having pride to do so. Seeking her out in person in Australia from the United States and all that it took for that endevor without even knowing what would happen if anything at all.
- It is never to late for anyone or more to be able to fix things and start over until at least one of them has died and then it is too late... (So, Ashly if we can't fix us because you are not willing to try with a Neutral Therapist then that is your prerogative, but understand this as my last and final statement if that becomes the case, I Forgive you and I Love You and always have despite situations, but know this, that when I die and you are made aware of this then Don't you shed a single tear as you don't deserve that privilege! - You had an opportunity just like I did and I tried!)
Ashly, I will always be willing to talk or welcome you into my home, my life, (You are always in my heart!) whenever or if you decide to try. Sorry we have had such a difficult life and all the hurts you have felt, I've hurt too, okay!
Remember this, You will always live in my heart & mind, I Love You - Dad!
To my granddaughter, Zoe, if you should by chance or a miracle have been able to see and read everything in this website, I just want you to know I do want to talk with you and for both of us to know each other. Also understand that mine and your mothers difference are between her & I and for those issues to be worked out by both of us and that I believe it would be inappropriate for you and I to discuss these issues unless your mother and I can resolve these issues first and then discuss things with you together if your mother approves.
Your mom has the right to feel how she feels for herself and for you, but she has a responsibility to work through her concerns & issues about our life, with me, with a therapist just like what she provides for others.
In the future if you want to contact me then you can email me at williamdhodges@yahoo.com.
However, for now please respect your moms feelings and her authority over you till you are clarified as an adult.
Just know I will do everything I possibly can do to locate you and make contact never giving up unless life calls it quits for me. This may include a private investigator or process server delivering a package of information to you.
Psychological Terms & Others to review:
Aopsychology
Grandparents Rights According to Australian Law
Who are Psychologist1? - Who are Psychologist 2?
Lack of Communication 1 - Lack of Communication 2
Maybe just study everything in the Other Folder/Library in this website, just saying!
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